البعض يعتقدون خطأً ان احتضنان الطفل وتدليله يفسد الطفل
، لكن الحقيقة أن الحنان عامل هام لتنشئة طفل سوى. اقرئى لتعرفى أكثر.
احتياج الطفل للاحتضان والتدليل يبدأ فى وقت مبكر عما نتصور. حمل طفلك خلال السنة الأولى من عمره له أهمية كبرى فى تنمية شخصيته. إذا لم يستمتع طفلك بكم كاف من اللمس والحنان، قد يميل عندما يكبر للانطواء والبعد عن الناس. لذا حتى ولو لم يطلب طفلك بشكل مباشر أن تحتضنيه، فهذا لا يعنى أنه ليس بحاجة لحضنك. فى رحم الأم، يكون كل جزء من جسم الجنين ملاصق للسائل الأمنيونى وقد يكون هذا هو السبب فى حنيننا للمس. منذ حوالى عامين، أوصت منظمة اليونيسيف ومنظمة الصحة العالمية بوضع الطفل بين ذراعى أمه بعد الولادة مباشرةً ملتصقاً بجسمها. بهذه الطريقة ستشعره أمه بالدفء الجسدى والنفسى أيضاً. وقد لوحظ أن هذه الطريقة تجعل لبن الأم ينزل مبكراً كما تحافظ على كميته.
لهذا السبب يؤكد أطباء الأطفال والأخصائيون النفسيون على أهمية احتضان الطفل. عندما يبكى الطفل ذو العامين، لتهدئته، لا تفكرى مرتين فيما إذا كان يستحق أن تحتضنيه أم لا، بل يجب أن تأخذيه على حجرك وتقربيه إليك. اللُعَب حتى الدببة التى زاد استخدامها منذ عدة سنوات هى بديل غير كاف لإشباع حاجة الطفل للمس. احتضان الطفل ومعانقته يجعل الطفل يشعر بالأمان كما أنه يقوى من تقدير الطفل لذاته. كلما كان الطفل صغير كلما كان غير قادر على فهم الأشياء الغير ملموسة، لذلك فإستخدام الكلام أو تعبيرات الوجه لإظهار الحب والحنان قد لا يكون كافى.
لأهمية الحضن، تحتفل بعض الدول فى العالم بيوم معين فى السنة ويسمونه يوم الحضن! اغمرى طفلك بحنانك واجعليه يراك وأنت تعبرين عن هذا الحنان لكل أفراد الأسرة سواء كان أطفالك الآخرين أو زوجك. بعض الأطفال يكونون من النوع الذى لا يحب الالتصاق الجسدى – ببساطة هم يكرهون اقتحام أى شخص لجسمهم أو قد يشعرون إذا أظهروا عواطفهم أنهم عراة. هؤلاء الأطفال يجب أن يعرفوا أن الاحتضان عادة صحية ومفيدة ويجب تشجعيهم عليها (ولكن دون إجبارهم).
الاحتضان يكون له تأثير فورى سواء على الحاضن أو على من يتلقى الحضن - فهذا الاحتضان يخلق رابطة بين الاثنين حيث أن الجلد أيضاً عضو من أعضاء الإحساس يحتاج للإشباع. الحضن ببساطة هو تعبير طبيعى لإظهار الحب والاهتمام. لا يوجد سن معين يجب أن يتوقف فيه الآباء والأمهات عن احتضان أبنائهم بحجة أنهم كبروا على الاحتضان. يجب أن يتم تشجيع أبنائنا حتى فى سن المراهقة على التعبير عن حنانهم، فسريعاً ستكون لهم أسرهم حيث سيمارسون معها هذا الحنان الذى تعلموه فى بيوت آبائهم.
من العلاجات البديلة الشائعة هذه الأيام هو ال"ريكى" وهو علاج يقوم على نقل الطاقة عن طريق اللمس. "ريكى" هو أسلوب يابانى يتضمن وضع اليدين على المكان المريض لبضع دقائق. يؤدى هذا العلاج أيضاً إلى خفض التوتر وزيادة الاسترخاء مما يزيد من سرعة الشفاء.
الاحتضان يستخدم الآن كوسيلة فى علاج بعض الأمراض العضوية لأن الأبحاث تشير إلى أن الاحتضان قد يؤدى إلى تغيرات عضوية إيجابية. اللمس يحفز أطراف الأعصاب مما يساعد على تخفيف الألم. الآن هناك نوع من العلاج يعرف باسم العلاج باللمس يوصف للمرضى الذين يعانون من حالات مزمنة.
Parents, especially new ones, fear that they may spoil their babies if they hug and kiss them all the time. However, the truth is that your children will thrive on your affection. Read on to find out why.
Parents, especially new ones, fear that they may spoil their babies if they hug and kiss them all the time. However, the truth is that your children will thrive on your affection. Read on to find out why.
The need to be hugged and cuddled starts earlier than we imagine. Carrying your baby during the first year of his life is of utmost importance regarding the development of his character. If your child doesn’t receive enough skin contact, he tends to be aloof and withdrawn later in his life. So, even if a child may not directly ask for a hug, this does not mean he doesn't need to be cuddled. In the mother's uterus, the amniotic flu
id touches each part of the fetus's body, which may be the origin of the yearning for touch no matter what our age. About two years ago UNICEF and WHO recommended that immediately after a baby is born, direct skin to skin contact with his mom is recommended. This contact will keep him warm both physically and psychologically. It has been noted that this position ensures very early milk production as well as sustained milk production.
For these reasons, pediatricians and psychologists stress the importance of cuddling our children. When a two year old cries, in order to comfort him, you shouldn't think twice about whether he deserves to be hugged or not. Instead, you should take him on your lap or hold him close to your heart. Toys, such as teddy bears, the use of which has been increasing in recent decades, are a poor substitute for the human contact children need. Cuddling and caressing make a growing child feel secure and are a great boost to self-esteem. The younger children are, the more concrete and less abstract they are. That is, things need to be physically evident for them to feel or sense them. Therefore relying on facial expressions or verbal comments to relay love and affection is not sufficient.
On January 21st 1986, National Hugging Day was founded in the United States. It has spread all over the world ever since and is referred to as Hug Day, World Hug Day, Send a Hug Day, International Hug Day, and even Hug a Bear Day! An old saying states that we need four hugs a day for survival, eight hugs a day for maintenance and twelve hugs a day for growth. Lavish your children with affection and let them see you display this affection to other family members, whether it's your other kids or your spouse. Some children may flinch from physical contact - they simply detest the invasion of their personal space or feel vulnerable if they display any form of emotion. These children need to know that hugging is a healthy and wholesome habit and they should be encouraged (though not forced) to do it.
Reaching out and touching someone has immediate effects on both the person hugging and the person being hugged - it creates a bond between the two individuals since the skin is also a sense organ that needs fulfilling. Hugging is simply a natural expression of love. There is no age at which parents should stop hugging their children, claiming that they have outgrown cuddling. Teenagers should be encouraged to display affection, soon enough they will have their own families where they will likewise share the love they have received and enjoyed in their homes.
A popular form of alternative healing these days is Reiki, which is based on the transfer of energy through touch. Reiki is a Japanese technique involving placing both hands on the diseased area for a few minutes. It promotes stress reduction and relaxation, which enhances healing. The word Reiki is made of two Japanese words - Rei which means "God's wisdom" or "the higher power" and Ki which is "life force energy." So Reiki is actually "spiritually guided life force energy."
On January 21st 1986, National Hugging Day was founded in the United States. It has spread all over the world ever since and is referred to as Hug Day, World Hug Day, Send a Hug Day, International Hug Day, and even Hug a Bear Day! An old saying states that we need four hugs a day for survival, eight hugs a day for maintenance and twelve hugs a day for growth. Lavish your children with affection and let them see you display this affection to other family members, whether it's your other kids or your spouse. Some children may flinch from physical contact - they simply detest the invasion of their personal space or feel vulnerable if they display any form of emotion. These children need to know that hugging is a healthy and wholesome habit and they should be encouraged (though not forced) to do it.
Reaching out and touching someone has immediate effects on both the person hugging and the person being hugged - it creates a bond between the two individuals since the skin is also a sense organ that needs fulfilling. Hugging is simply a natural expression of love. There is no age at which parents should stop hugging their children, claiming that they have outgrown cuddling. Teenagers should be encouraged to display affection, soon enough they will have their own families where they will likewise share the love they have received and enjoyed in their homes.
A popular form of alternative healing these days is Reiki, which is based on the transfer of energy through touch. Reiki is a Japanese technique involving placing both hands on the diseased area for a few minutes. It promotes stress reduction and relaxation, which enhances healing. The word Reiki is made of two Japanese words - Rei which means "God's wisdom" or "the higher power" and Ki which is "life force energy." So Reiki is actually "spiritually guided life force energy."
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